Monday, February 25, 2008

What have we come to....

Sorry to make you all cry with my previous post...on a lighter note ug hem...excuse the crass nature here...

Hubby called me from his cell phone and proceeded with caution....um are you having a good day he asks? No...I said, why? Well then...I guess maybe I shouldn't say anything. Ok, now of course you have to tell me now, I won't be able to do another darn thing until I know what this caution is all about. So....after a short pause he says, "Mr. Thomas called me." - Mr. Thomas is the principal at the elementary school where my boys attend. What? Are the boys hurt? Is something wrong? Tell me hurry....tell me! I guess it's no secret that I am quite the paranoid mother.

Ummm...no he has our son in his office as we speak, he says. WHAT, WHY? Tell me I demanded! Well, he and a girl were drawing pictures and it seems that the girl drew a picture of our son with a red dot where his privates would be. My son asked her why she drew a red dot on his WIENER. So....my son got sent to the Principal's office because he used the word "WIENER." Phew....sorry but I immediately was upset with my son, for only a moment. Then my "smart ass" side came out and thought, so what WORD would they like him to use? Certainly NOT Penis! He is 10 for the love of God - 10! Would the word pecker be better suited? How about goods, tools, thingy, the jewels! What in heavens name is wrong with people nowadays. Maybe I'm mistaken, but did this warrant a trip to the Principal's office? To Oz himself? Couldn't a simple no no don't say those words be suffice?!

Soooo.....the principal allows my husband to speak with him, and my son becomes emotional on the phone with hubby, he's scared. My husband reassures him that he would not be in trouble, and that they would "talk" when he got home. I was home early, and so the minute he came through the door from the school bus, he burst into tears....I'm so sorry mom...but what do I call it mom? I told him, don't call it anything, just don't talk about it! Then I realized how I was not teaching him anything. And I said, "just call it "privates" that's all. I'm sorry, think of me what you wish, BUT I am not ready for my son to use the correct medical terminology, he is only 10 for cryin out loud!!!!!


UPDATE: Aaahhh some of you asked what happened to the girl. My husband told the principal that he certainly hoped the girl would also be talked to about the incident, and so my son tells me that they both lost recess the following day, and they had to go back to the principal's office and apologize to each other. This reminds me of when my other son was in kindergarten and got sent to the Pricipal's office for telling a girl who sat across from him that her coloring was sloppy. And the little girl's mother called the school to complain about my son. Are you kidding me???? My son's response was "well it was sloppy mom" - ugh, just keep your comments to yourself if they are not nice ones I told him. But how does a 6 year old truly understand this?! I had a conversation with the principal and teacher, that I did not appreciate my son being sent to the Principal's office for such trivial incidents, that I was afriad that he would lose the "impact" of what it means to be sent to the Principal's office, and that I don't want it to become "matter of fact" - going to the Principal's office is serious business....and sending them so often for ridiculous things would take away it's gravity! Scary isn't it? Focus people focus....how much valuable class time, learning time, is lost with this NONSENSE!

18 comments:

  1. I agree.. it is nuts.Poor baby to have to go through that like he said a real bad thing.Im glad and proud that he doesn't know.

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  2. You have to forgive me but I am simply laughing now-not at your family, but the ridiculousness of school systems today! You wouldn't believe the hours I spent on the phone with principals over crazy stuff like this. Poor kid! Let me guess, no one said a word to the girl about the picture did they? Wiener, PLEASE, my son would have had a much more "graphic" term and been suspended for sure. I think you handled it very well and he can call it whatever he wants to, but privates was a very "classy" choice.

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  3. You are right when you say "what have we come to?" It's just crazy!!

    Janet

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  4. So am I to take it the little girl didn't get in trouble for drawing a red dot on his weiner? In my book, if anyone were to get in trouble.....and I'm not sure anyone should......shouldn't it have been the girl with the questionable drawing skills?

    I am glad my kids are adults :-) Rosie

    oops. I forgot, I am having my first grandchild this year....look what I have to look forward to :-)

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  5. Oh, for crying out loud! I can't believe your son was called to the principal's office. He was one being drawn - without clothes on! The little girl should have gently been told to draw her friends and classmates with their clothes on. Nude drawings are for advanced, college-level art classes. Not in our elementary schools.

    If you've regathered your thoughts, please stop by my blog when you get a few minutes. You've been tagged.
    ~Adrienne~

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  6. Hello Rose
    Here it is the same. They take the children to the principal's office for stupid things... and they don't see the " important things" !!
    Don't worry about it. He is a little boy !!!
    I send you a kiss.
    Marcela

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  7. Most days I think our world has gone crazy.
    Where also in today's society a child can also get in trouble for hugging another student.
    Your son should not have got in trouble, nor should have the girl.
    I think they should have just talked to them. The teacher could have explained to the girl that it was inappropriate to talk about things like that.
    Things are so blown out of proportion all the time. It is nuts. (no pun intended)
    love nita

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  8. Oh sweetie! I can well understand your frustration. Been there done that! In fact I got so tied of the crazy way in which things were handled at my daughters school, that at the end of grade 5 (she was then 10 going on 11), that we pulled her out of school and started homeschooling her. Best thing we ever did. Being a kid is hard, but being a parent is harder! Sending big hugs your way today sweetie.
    Amanda (aka Cottage Contessa)

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  9. I do hope that the parole officer assigned to your son's case is schooled in Linguistic Therapies and Genital References.

    The folk at this school are living examples of "Big Moments In Little Lives."

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  10. You have got to be kidding. Poor guy. He's only 10 for goodness sake. Teachers just don't know how to handle things anymore.
    Hugs,
    Nan

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  11. It is very sad that the "teachable moments" appear to be gone in our school systems, and that normal childhood behavior gets punished. Your poor son. I have a 9 year old boy and he is very sensitive and I can only imagine what a trip to the principal's office might do. Thanks so much for visiting my blog. To know that people care means so very much.

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  12. Hola Rose.
    I'd like to know How your son is today???
    Poor kid.. I send him a kiss. and another to you!!!
    Chau. Marcela

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  13. If only the only problems in school were innocent kids saying weiner....I agree with you. They need to focus on the bigger picture. After raising 4 boys, I know exactly where you are coming from!
    Penny

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  14. Stop by........You've been tagged.
    Hugs,
    Nan

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  15. Is there no happy median? They do tend to take things too far. What's the matter with people. Have they no common sense? Hugs ~ Lynn

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  16. Oh for heaven's sake. Doesn't the school have more important things to do. . . like TEACH? I can't believe your principal makes a big deal of that either. I think you all need a new principal :)

    Blessings,

    Sher

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  17. Oh my! Yes I have a son too, who when he was little I was confronted by a day care worker practically OUT OF HER MIND with an incident. I was like, what in the world did he do!?! It must have been something horrible! Someone was probably sent to the hospital or worse!!! Well guess what my four year old son put little dixie cups under his shirt like breasts, well I about died laughing, come one give me a BREAK! So I sympathise with you...just give you boy a hug, he needs it in this crazy world!

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